We need to ask ourselves, what is going on in the present moment that is contributing to these compulsive vibrations? Am I thinking of the past or worrying about the future? Where is the pressure originating that is pushing me to strike at a loved one, over indulge in unhealthy food choices, or be so stressed out!?
Awareness is the antidote. Being conscious and awake enough to observe, to watch ourselves in these moments, is how we challenge this form of suffering.
Next time this type of energy surfaces, bring your awareness to it. Give yourself space, time, the freedom to decide purposefully on how to move forward. Do we really need our partner’s to act a certain way, to get that job, have that donut to be happy? Believe me, working hard and complimenting ourselves with a nice pair of jeans or a cookie is all good. But internally we all know the difference between compliment and compulsive behaviors. We all have them, but as we journey through life and all the self discoveries along the road, we value the word “purpose” more and more. Slowly but surely, with increased awareness, the word “impulse” seems to fade away.
AWARENESS = BE HERE NOW
Keep up the awesome work and have a wonderful weekend!
I have a big announcement! I am teaching my signature mind body bootcamp class in London, Boston, DC, and Los Angeles in the coming months! We kick off the first class in London August 2nd. I will make sure you all receive the invitation early next week to invite your friends, family, colleagues etc., that live/work in those cities. I will also share the dates of the other remaining cities once we lock down the venues. Thanks everyone for spreading the word!
Book club took place this past Sunday. I have to say it was one of my favorite book clubs to date. Not only because of the fun, open, playful conversations that always seem to take place, but something was said that stuck with me all week long:
“I noticed that my downs are not the same downs as they use to be.”
For me, this is the very reason Circuit of Change came to be. We breathe, punch, kick, and sweat like crazy to feel this way. We are human and we will have our down times, but we are also growing and moving forward. The stress, anxiety, and fears may still exist, but they are losing interest in us one day at a time.
In our spiritual and physical practice we sometimes come across that word “Enlightenment.”, which carries so many different meanings. We may attach ourselves to certain figures that we feel this word best describes, like the Dalai Lama.
Enlightenment is different for everyone. I see it as our own unique way of growing. If we grow through patterns we no longer wish to see, than I feel we have created our own form of enlightenment.
We break bad patterns by taking our errors to heart. By understanding that we will make more mistakes. Reflecting on our mistakes doesn’t mean beating the crap out of ourselves, or wallowing in our imperfections. We need to chill. We sometimes need to just breathe.
I found it helpful over the years to “Sit In It.” If you feel your energies are spiraling, we need to take the 5 or longer rule. A pattern of responding too quickly to emails, text messages, and impulsive dialogue can catch us off guard. Words are not carefully thought through and conflicts tend to form. Give yourself the time needed to decompress, especially if agitated!
Keep doing the work. Let’s do our best not to scream our feelings from another room!
Noticing that “our downs are not the same downs as they use to be”, is something to celebrate : )
Just breathe everyone…
Have a wonderful weekend!
YES YES YES!!!!!!
Honestly, beside my excitement for Friday, I just feel like saying yes yes yes! Why the heck not. It sounds better than… Maybe, Someday, NO!
The choice isn’t easy. For example.. what if I am feeling depleted of energy and can’t muster up the positive pick me up talk? What if I am tired, and don’t feel like doing anything but procrastinate?
I really want to focus this email on breaking down procrastination. This seems to be a hot subject, because once again, it involves our psychology. Uhg!
Why do we procrastinate when it causes us so much anxiety?
I like the test below created by Pamela Wiegartz, Ph.D.
2. Do you picture how important people in your life might react if you failed?
3. Do you believe it’s better to not try at all than to try your best and fail?
4. Are you overwhelmed by the possibility of new responsibilities if you are successful?
5. Do you subscribe to the idea “If I do well, then others will expect more of me”?
6. Do you feel your success will lead to other people finding out the “real you”?
7. Do you believe that if you’re going to do something, you should try to do it perfectly?
8. Do you find it difficult to persist when things aren’t going just right?
9. Would you rather avoid doing something than do it imperfectly?
How you answered may tell you a lot about why you procrastinate. A “yes” response to questions 1 through 3 may mean a fear of failure is behind your procrastination. The thought of putting in effort but still failing makes you anxious, so you choose avoiding and procrastinating instead. In this way, when your project fails you can rationalize that it wasn’t a true test of your abilities anyway-if only you’d had more time.
On the flip side, a “yes” to questions 4 through 6, may mean you fear success, not failure. Procrastination protects you from the higher expectations and greater responsibilities that may come with succeeding. Like those who procrastinate because they fear failure, you keep yourself safe from facing your true limits by avoiding challenges and putting things off.
If you identified with questions 7 through 9, perfectionism may underlie your avoidance. Because you believe that things should be done perfectly, the result is that nothing gets done at all. When faced with a task, you become overwhelmed and frustrated-paralyzed by impossible standards.
I will share with you what helped me tremendously… and believe me its not easy!
I decreased my impulsiveness. I began to slow down and think things through. This leverage gave me exactly what I needed to increase my optimism. I decided to stop going crazy in my mind. In doing so, I was able to find more organization, build an internal foundation, and start living with purpose.
In my book, the 3 Go To’s……
1. Every night write out your next day. Create blocks of time and focus on what is important to you. This can be 5-15 minute blocks, especially if you have a job that keeps you busy non stop. If its your relationship that needs work, than you partner should know how you feel. Block out the time to focus on the little things. Send the notes, research fun things to do. Surprise them. Keep them guessing. Anyway, this is just one example. You can have 3-5 things that need attention (don’t overload). Organize and attack them!
2. Do not allow anyone else to dictate your future! Everywhere we turn, someone is complaining about the economy, our country, and all the other pessimistic crap. Don’t jump on that train. You are different. Prove to yourself that you are different.
3. Research other successful people/businesses that you admire. Read up on them. Study them. Understand them. This can be a huge “Pick Me Up” resource. You will soon see and feel that they all have something in common. Go figure it out….
I believe in all of you. Believe in yourself, and make it happen.
You can pick up this book on amazon, The Procrastination Equation by Piers Steel, PHD … explains all of this in detail.
Have a wonderful weekend all!
I was very impressed with classes this week. Dedicated to teaching the synchronization between breath and movement, this week was a very special week for me. I am proud of all of you. I, as well as the other teachers, witnessed major “openings” this week. For those that couldn’t attend classes, and to all our readers, I would like to share with you the emotional healing we created together, so we can all take part of this freeing experience.
As always, all classes at Circuit of Change involve an intention. I believe wholeheartedly we can change how we feel physically, emotionally, and spiritually by combining the two elements, breath and movement. But here is the kicker….it takes time.
Sometimes we become so conditioned with the “quick fix” solution. Why? Because we take one big sneeze, and what do you know… its Friday again. The intention seems to fade. The irritability becomes thicker, and it feels like we have to start all over again.
I feel the root of this can be blocked energy. Sometimes we have no freaking idea how to push through, how to deal, and most importantly where this junk coming from.
Good days, bad days, in between days, where is the consistency we are all yearning for? What is holding us back from having a major break through?
Relaxed in savasana, I had all the students envision something that was pressurizing the heart. What could this be? For all of us this could be a series of different energies. Isolation from friend, family, partner, old memory that keeps creeping in etc. You can fill in the blanks. We all have our things.
We then brought the focus to our internal light. I asked the students to let go of pride, ego, jealousy, envy, and validation. I asked for all of us to see ourselves for who we are. “What can we do to help the situation for us?” What can we do that will alleviate this blocked energy, and the pressure surrounding our delicate heart? Not what can “they” do to decrease the pressure, but what can we do. Does a phone call need to be made? Do we need to visit someone? Do we have to forgive ourselves? I know this can be a sensitive subject for many of us, including myself, and I do not want to rip the band aid off old wounds, but emotional cleansing and forgiveness can be the very thing we need to let go to move forward…. to find meaning.
It takes a lot of courage to release the familiar and seemingly secure, to embrace the new.
But there is no real security in what is no longer meaningful.
There is more security in the adventurous and exciting, for in movement there is life, and in change there is power.
~ Alan Cohen
So to all of you…. me included… lets start out small. If we feel pressure, we ask the questions. Do I feel anger? Do I feel resentment? Do I feel unsatisfied? Do I feel isolated? Then shift to internal movement…What can I do to change how I feel right now? What actions would I take if pride and ego did not exist?
I have mucho work to do myself… but that is the beauty of life. We can be whoever we want to be….if we let go. I will keep working hard in class and never stop dedicating my life to this movement. Circuit of Change is here for all of you. Your classmates support the changes you wish to see. Open the door, and open and heart.
Have a wonderful weekend peeps!
Ps. Check out July’s community and wellness events. I will be running the book club Sunday July 1st, and the plant-based eating workshop July 14th will be packed with recipes, helpful tips, and delicious food tastings. Check out the descriptions below…
I was reading up on some insight from the Dalai Lama, and wanted to discuss the passage below…
The six syllables of the mantra, as it is often pronounced by Tibetans
– Om Mani Padme Hum –
To break it down…The first, OM… symbolizes the practitioner’s impure body, speech, and mind; it also symbolizes the pure exalted body, speech, and mind of a Buddha….
The path is indicated by the next four syllables. MANI, meaning jewel, symbolized the altruistic intention to become enlightened, compassionate and loving.
The two syllables, PADME, meaning lotus, symbolize wisdom.
Purity must be achieved by an indivisible unity of method and wisdom, symbolized by the final syllable HUM, which indicates indivisibility.
Thus the six syllables, om mani padme hum, means that by the practice of path which is an indivisible union of method and wisdom, you can transform your impure body, speech, and mind into the pure exalted body, speech and mind of a buddha.
This mantra is very insightful, and I feel represents all the energies and disciplines we work on in class. I love using our physical breakthroughs from the classroom to work on our internal developments. Our body, speech, and state of mind are constantly changing, and by using wisdom, insight from teachers, books, life lessons, and honoring who we truly are, we become steps closer to our truest form of being.
Taking all that we have learned, and growing with it, has always been my understanding of transformation. This is the good stuff.
But… we have another energy we MUST deal with in order for these changes to take place. We must let go. We all have to do our best in surrendering to perfection! We have to stop trying to control ourselves and others. We hit walls when these rules we create become cemented. “My way or the highway” mentality can be destructive when dealing with transformation or breakthroughs.
We are all the same. We want the same. Love, respect, joy and happiness for ourselves and others. At the end of the day… just do YOUR BEST : )
“The thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself.”- Anna Quindlen
Have a wonderful weekend!